The Power of Words

If you are one that is struggling to find the right words to express how you are feeling or what you are thinking, then this short article may be of great support for you.  

There is so much power around self expression yet so often words that can be quite meaningful and of great impact to those around us are often contained, ignored or sectively withdrawn.   

One might ask, “Why is it so difficult for someone to open up and share how they are feeling.”  There is no clear cut answer to this.  While some may repress their feelings to avoid further pain or because disconnecting seems a lot easier, others may have no problem holding back.  They may blurt out whatever comes to mind with little to no filter.  Words do have value and can make every difference in a relationship. 

Imagine the power and liberation one can feel through self expression.  Unfortunately, it's easy to get stuck, using the same, repetitive language that produces absolutely no changes.  There is great power around one’s ability to express themselves.  We must however do this in the right manner so that we are not just heard but that our mesages are also received.  

There are some who may choose to silence themselves because for them, silence equates to less conflict.  You and I know that there are times to remain quiet and there are times to be vocal.  We do need to be selective on how we speak and the words we choose to use.  We can choose to say over and over again how angry someone makes us feel however true change begins when we learn how to communicate our feelings.  Phrases like, “ I’m feeling a bit lonely today” can go a bit smoother in a conversation with a partner than an accusation such as, “You’re never around!”

Today, choose words that define what it is you are experiencing and remember that there are plenty of ways to express this.  Rather than yelling at your child or taking your anger out on your partner, choose instead to explain with clarity and calmness how his or her actions are affecting you.  Instead of complaining that you aren’t getting any help from anyone in the home, try another statement like, “I’m so exhausted, any chance you can help me out today.” 

Use the FEELING WHEEL below to get a bit deeper as you work toward building healthier and stronger communication with others.