You are not broken!
Each day, I get to work with wonderful men and women like you. I am inspired by your inner wisdom and your ambition to achieve emotional, spiritual and physical wellness. This is a process of growth as you may already see, that requires a great deal of effort and commitment. As you are embarking in this journey, you may be fighting thoughts like my client Angelica, who believes she is "broken."
“I’m really a mess. I feel broken and I don’t think I could ever be fixed." This was Angelica's cry for help.
There isn't a quick fix solution to make things all better. While problems may be external, it’s easy to look inside and find self-blame from within. If you can relate and you are feeling somewhat broken, as is Angelica, I want you to know that you my friend, are not broken. There simply may be healing work to be done. This in no way implies that you are broken or that you need to be fixed. You are a human being with real thoughts, real emotions, and real experiences. There’s nothing broken about that!
You may be finding that people around you are often telling you that something is wrong with you or are treating you in a way in which you feel disrespected or as if you have been silenced. You may find that there are people in your circle constantly telling you that you need to change or who are persistent in telling you how they believe you should live your life. They may be gaslighting you into believing that you are wrong for your beliefs and may try to shame you into taking on their own views. The problem is on their side, not yours. These types of people lack insight, they lack boundaries and get consumed in their own desires and their own selfish needs.
We all have problems in life and yes, there are issues that may need fixing. They are merely this, issues that need fixing. People are not broken, and they do not need fixing. Those who have been hurt, who are in suffering and being gaslit and mistreated, need healing. It's extremely important to adjust this language because healing takes on a different path that releases self-blame, self-defeat and self-sabotage.
You may be having a hard time in life and struggling with tough challenges. However, always remember that you are a beautiful, wise, loved human being, with qualities that make you unique in your very own way. You are growing, and with this comes change and a wealth of delightful adventures that will inevitably follow.
As you go about your day, be sure to:
Find people who inspire you and who bring out the best in you.
Spend time with people who listen to your needs and who do not put you down to inflate their own ego.
Love yourself.
Protect and nurture yourself from the inside out.